"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung, and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one...Lock [your heart] up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change...The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell."
-C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
I have been thinking about [all] relationships lately. And the bond and love between them. I have been very psychoanalytical about it. For example, take the idea of missing a person. Think about how much love and fondness you must have for them that you are actually melancholy when they are not around, or to desire their presence a large enough amount that it is actually hard when they are absent. Why are we like that? How crazy that we are created to love. It's basically unavoidable. And for most of us we yearn to love for people. We want to be able to give away that vulnerability. But man it's scary. Even just a new friendship is opening your heart more, putting yourself further out there.
Even now I am getting nervous. Loving someone is a risk. I think very rarely (if ever) is a person content with having a one-way street kind of love. It is meant to be a mutual connection. A back and forth of love and respect, giving and receiving.
Love is dangerous. And of course intimate, romantic love is the most dangerous of all.
It just seems so funny that we are sinful, short-lived, innumerable human beings and yet we are capable of feeling something so huge, so powerful. And that fact that we are meant to live like that. JEEZE!
But in the beginning of our time God said "It is not good for man to be alone" (Gen 2:18). I guess I do not really have a concluding statement, or overall purpose of this post. Just some ramblings I decided to put down into organized sentences. I am deciding much of this as I go along.
To love and be loved seems scary, but the Bible tells us "perfect love casts out all fear" and also that "God is love" (both in 1 John 4). It is God's love that need never strike fear in our hearts because it is unchanging, unfailing and always reliable. RADICAL.